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Anger Management:
Building Better Relationships
| Course Number |
LWF201 |
| Objectives |
At the end of this course, you will be
able to 1) assess his/her anger, 2) understand the roots/source of
his/her anger, 3) apply the steps of anger management and 4) reach a
higher level of personal peace |
| Credit Hours and Fee |
3.0 CE Credit Hours with a fee of $24.00 |
| Instructor |
Rudolf Klimes, PhD (Indiana University), MPH
(Johns Hopkins University),
Adjunct Professor at Folsom Lake College, Folsom, CA |
LearnWell Forgiveness Institute:
www.forgiver.net
While this course is useful for people
who want to reduce their own level of anger, it is primarily intended for
professionals (RNs, LCSWs, MFTs, etc.) and laypersons who guide others in anger
management.
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"Something that makes me really mad is when people
underestimate me. They just write me off and don't take any time to really let
me prove myself."..."I know I'm losing control when I start insulting
others. One of my brothers has a learning difficulty, and once I got so mad I
called him 'stupid.' I felt so bad about that."..."It seems I'm always
getting angry and I don't know why. When I get mad, I usually take it out on
others. Afterward I feel terrible. Sometimes I apologize. Sometimes I don't.
Could you please help me figure out why I get mad so easily and how I can stop
doing it?"
Yesterday (at this
writing), I was a bystander in a domestic hostility situation that rapidly
escalated into violence and the removal by the police of one party from the
home. The application of the following guidelines would have prevented that
situation. Explore Anger Analyzed;
http://susankramer.com/Anger.html
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...............................For
Self-study..................................
1. Assessment of Anger
First determine the level,
source, style and target of your anger. A number of anger
measurements are useful for that. Anger has at least 4 levels, namely hidden
anger, angry expression, angry words, violence. Keep a Hostility Log in which
you journal all the hostile situations you initiated in 5 days. Include in it 6 things, namely the date and time, a
short description of the incident, your attitude (thoughts or level of mistrust
and cynicism), your emotions that lead to the incident, your behavior resulting
from the hostility, and the outcome. Here is another anger test:
http://members.tripod.com/kanchanD/ANGER.HTM
Anger is a reaction to an emotion, not a planned action. The feelings underlying
the anger make us feel weak. Anger makes us feel in control. Angry is learned
and therefore can be unlearned and replaced with healthier coping. Anger can be
a reaction to one event or a response after numerous events. To repress anger
and not to deal with it is unhealthy and will inevitably carry negative
consequences. To change our angry, we need to understand its
cause. If we have seen our parents get angry first and resolve an issue
after, we are more likely to use a similar approach. Types of anger are learned.
We are more likely to get angry if we are frustrated and feel stressed, if we
are tired, if we tend to hold our feelings inside rather than talk them
out.
ERIC_NO:
ED409501
Parental Anger towards Children: Assessment Issues
in Child Maltreatment.
Hecht, Debra B.; And Others,
1996
ABSTRACT:
As any parent knows, anger towards children is a natural
occurrence of parenting. Since it is important to identify and address some of
the emotional issues that underlie child abuse, the role of anger
in parenting and in child maltreatment is covered in this paper. An ecological
analysis of parental anger is presented, with special emphasis on
environmental determinants, such as employment and financial situations, the
family environment, and individual factors. The link between parental anger
and child physical abuse is presented next, along with a discussion of the
parallels between frustration and anger. Since parental anger
responses may follow or be intensified by child behavior problems, anger
specifically related to child behavior should be an assessment
priority. Several assessment instruments are profiled. It is
suggested that researchers and clinicians should look more at social cognition
and its interplay with emotional arousal, regulation, and interpretation of
situations in order to lessen the incidence of physical abuse
2. Causes for Anger
To understand the management
of anger, you have to understand where anger comes from and what is its nature.
Anger is a feeling of great displeasure and hostility. Everybody from time to
time will be displeased but most people work out these problems in a peaceful
way. But anger that is uncontrolled and expressed in aggression becomes a
major problem. The causes of that anger are usually within the angry person, not
in the situation that triggers the anger. Explore the Anger
Toolkit, the Anger-page.
ERIC_NO:
ED039917,
Anger in Children: Causes, Characteristics, and Considerations,
Sheviakov, George,
1969
ABSTRACT:
The author of this booklet discusses reasons for anger and ways of
coping with it. When anger erupts in a classroom, it may be the
result of cultural conditions that produce frustration and tension or
adult-caused frustrations that could be avoided, such as rigid
rules or lack of respect for the child. In discussing the characteristics of anger,
the author stresses that anger may not be consciously recognized
by the sufferer and that anger is cumulative and may suddenly
"explode." The degrees of anger are discussed, and
descriptions of anger's physiological effects are given.
Guidelines are given for teachers and schools to follow in working with troubled
children. Included are case descriptions of two children who were severe
classroom problems. The point of view emphasized is that the origins of a
child's anger must be understood intellectually to effectively
plan strategy needed to help the child. A flexible approach to treatment,
involving the child on both the cognitive and emotional level, is urged. A
nonjudgmental, patient, and humanitarian approach is stressed in handling anger
in children.
3. Avoidance of Anger
Watch out for anger
triggers, wait to cool down and then decide on a course of action. Consider
stopping hostile thoughts, feelings and actions when they deserve no further
attention and are not effective. Give yourself time off to
cool off. Say to
yourself STOP. Avoid over-stimulation from caffeine, sweets, and drugs. Check
out Managing Anger.
ERIC_NO:
ED329847,
A Model for Managing Anger and Conflict,
Hamilton, Beatrice,
1991
ABSTRACT:
Anger is probably the most misunderstood and least expressed
feeling. To understand anger, it is necessary to explore the
process. Anger usually follows an experience of frustration, unmet
expectations, loss of self-respect, and fear. The next stage seems to be
anxiety, which may be interpreted as a disappointment, discomfort, or
powerlessness. This anxiety is then immediately changed, usually without
recognition, into feelings or actions of power and fight. Finally, relief is
felt only after release of the negative energy in the body. The constructive way
to deal with anger is to confront the situation. Guidelines for
fighting fair include the following: (1) establishing the legitimacy of
fighting; (2) dealing with one issue at a time; (3) choosing the arena
carefully; (4) avoiding reaction to unintentional remarks; (5) avoiding
resolutions that come too soon or too easily; (6) avoiding name
calling; (7) avoiding cornering an opponent; (8) agreeing to
disagree; (9) focusing on what is wanted rather than why it is wanted; and (10)
maintaining a sense of humor. If fair or creative fighting is attempted, then
three positive outcomes may result: an effective resolution may be found;
everyone involved may maintain a clear sense of personal dignity throughout the
conflict; or the relationship may be in no way damaged and may even be enhanced.
4. Positive Anger Management
Short-lived controlled anger
targeted at a specific object or person may be helpful and healthy. But anger
that lasts longer than a few hours easily turns into bitterness that can affect
every part of a person's live. That type of anger needs management, reduction
and control.
Some positive anger
management tools are distracting yourself (refocusing on something else),
asserting yourself peacefully (making a simple request, describe the
misbehavior, remind the other of rules, state the consequences), active
listening (listening in silence, then repeating what was said, giving your
message, checking if you are understood), increasing your empathy (the other's
motives may not be evil), raising your tolerance level (allowinging the other
some slack), seeking God's help (praying and studying God's word), and laughing
at yourself (about the trivial and unreasonable). At times seeking counsel
(mediation, and service to others (working it off) may also be helpful. Explore Anger
Websites.
ERIC_NO:
ED273895 Treatment of Anger: A Review of the Current Literature.
Andersen, Carole Lou,
1985
ABSTRACT:
Many psychological and physiological disorders may have some etiology in an
unconstructive response to anger. Still others may be exacerbated
by repressed or suppressed anger. Anger is often a
problem for clients seeking therapy, yet psychologists have little research upon
which to develop a viable therapeutic approach. While skills in communication
appear to be effective in reducing angry feelings to maintain positive physical
and mental health and to enhance interpersonal relationships, these skills seem
to be difficult to learn. Four self-report measures have been used primarily in
the assessment of anger arousal and expression and in the
assessment of the effectiveness of anger management techniques.
They are the Buss-Durkee Hostility Inventory, the Reaction Inventory, the Anger
Self-Report, and the Anger Inventory. Several promising
theoretical positions have been developed for treatment of maladaptive anger
in people. Among these are the behavioral approaches of desensitization and
social skills training. Cognitive behavioral techniques used involve an emphasis
on some kind of restructuring of thoughts, with Rational-Emotive Therapy and
stress inoculation training having been used primarily. Research has indicated
that any direct intervention for treatment of maladaptive anger
expression is better than none, and a multifaceted training program consisting
of desensitization or relaxation training, stress inoculation, and social skills
or problem solving training is best.
5. Personal Peace
The result of good mental
health and effective anger management is personal peace. The hostile act that
brought on your anger can be worked through or forgiven (giving up any revenge,
going on with your life). Peace comes when you have a positive attitude,
an emotional equilibrium, and self-control over your actions.
Summary: Dealing with anger
requires one to admit his or her wrong convictions, to give up the fear and
denial of being wrong, and to bind up the anger wounds with good will and
forgiveness. http://www.articles911.com/Anger_Management/
6. Resources for Anger
Management
Explore the following: Conflict
Resolution,
Anger and Sobriety. http://www.apa.org/pubinfo/anger.html http://www.counseling.org/ctonline/archives/anger.htm
Anyone can become angry --that is easy, but to be angry with the right
person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in
the right way --this is not easy. -Aristotle........We boil at different
degrees. -Ralph Waldo Emerson...........Anger is one of the sinews of the soul;
he that lacks it has a maimed mind.-Thomas Fuller.......Anger is a momentary
madness, so control your passion or it will control you.-Horace..........The
flame of anger, bright and brief, sharpens the barb of love. -Walter S. Landor............No
man can think clearly when his fist are clenched. -George Jean Nathan.
...........................Basic
Assignment.......................
Explore some of the links in
the course. Keep a Hostility Log for 5
days, or one that includes at least 5 incident. Short example: Date: 1/1/2003,
9am; Another car cuts in; driver is too pushy; mildly frustrated; not worth
reacting; no anger. Keep this for your own records. Do not submit it.
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